Why Celebrating is Vital as an ADHD Biz Owner

redballoonsJill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard brain scientist, was just 37 years old when she suffered a stroke. It took her 8 years to make a full recovery and she documented the process in the book,  My Stroke of Insight. Jill had to learn all the basics again, like how to sit up, walk, talk, and feed herself.

This inspirational book has some amazing pearls of wisdom. One is to celebrate EVERY achievement, no matter what the size. I would love all business owners with ADHD to  adopt this principle.

Jill didn’t say, “Oh, I can sit up on my own now, big deal, I could do that when I was one year old.” That would have been discouraging after all the mental and physical effort it had taken. It would have also zapped her motivation to move on to the next step of her recovery.

Congratulating yourself encourages future successes

ADDers minimize their achievements all the time. They say things like, “Well, anyone could have done it.”  Or they focus on what they haven’t, done rather than on what they DID do.

If you have made a difficult phone call, or made a big effort to arrive to a meeting on time, congratulate yourself and say, “Great job!” Allow yourself to bask in the warmth of this success for a minute before moving on to the next task.

This makes you feel good in the moment and encourages future successes.

However, you are more likely to say, “Well, I should be able to pick up the phone,” or “everyone else arrived on time.” This self-talk devalues your achievements and efforts, de-motivates you for future successes, and makes you feel bad about yourself.

Give yourself physical rewards

As well as positive verbal encouragement, also give yourself physical rewards. Just like a small child or pet, adults love to be acknowledged for their achievements, and there is no better person to recognize your achievements than you.

Rewards don’t need to be naughty like unhealthy treats or alcohol. There are many ways to reward yourself that are fun, enjoyable, and healthy. The bigger the accomplishment, the bigger the reward should be.

Positive self-talk will change your life and lift your self-esteem to new heights.

Actions

  1. Every time you do something that is a bit tricky, give yourself lots of praise.

  2. As well as verbal praise, give yourself a physical reward, too.

  3. Match the size of the reward with the achievement.

  4. Think ahead of time a few of your favorite healthy treats you would like to give yourself as a reward.

  5. Notice how much more fun life is!

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